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Portrait of Barbara Jo Ashenfelter
In loving memory

Barbara Jo Ashenfelter

November 17, 1942 – November 20, 2003
Lived 61 years
Saint Michaels Episcopalian Church · Independence, Missouri
Life story

Barbara Ashenfelter, was born with a heart full of love and an infectious spirit, Barbara was known for her warm personality, unique laugh, and unwavering kindness.

Barbara was married to Mike Ashenfelter, her devoted partner and best friend. Together, they built a beautiful life, raising four cherished daughters: Debbie Vickie, Tammie, and Bobbie. Barbara's love for her family was boundless, and she found immense joy in her role as a mother, always supporting and nurturing her children with compassion and wisdom.

As a grandmother, Barbara's heart expanded even further. She was the proud grandmother to Angela, Amanda, Barbara,Dylan, Samantha, McKenna, Reilly, Bradley, and Kristen. Each grandchild held a special place in her heart, and she delighted in their accomplishments and shared in their laughter and dreams.

Though she never had the chance to meet her great grandchildren, her heart was always filled with love and joy for them.

Barbara had a special affection for dogs, finding comfort and joy in their loyal companionship. Her home was always filled with the warmth of their presence, reflecting her love for all living beings.

Professionally, Barbara dedicated her life to caring for others, working in a nursing home where her friendly demeanor and compassionate care made a significant impact. She had a natural ability to brighten the days of those around her, both colleagues and residents alike.

Those who knew Barbara will remember her unique and contagious laugh, a true reflection of her vibrant personality. Her laughter could light up a room and bring smiles to the faces of everyone around her.

Barbara Ashenfelter's legacy is one of love, kindness, and a joyful spirit that touched the lives of many. She is deeply missed but forever remembered by her family, friends, and all who had the privilege of knowing her.

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The world Barbara knew

Family milestones in gold, history for context

1942
Born November 17
1947
Barbara was 5 when Jackie Robinson broke baseball's color barrier
1955
Barbara was 13 when Rosa Parks refused to give up her bus seat
1967
Barbara was 25 when the first Super Bowl was played
1971
Barbara was 29 when Walt Disney World opened in Florida
1982
Barbara was 40 when Michael Jackson released "Thriller"
1998
Barbara was 56 when Google was founded
2001
Barbara was 59 when Apple introduced the iPod
2003
Passed away November 20, age 61
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Debbie Williams 48w

22 years

Mom we had to say bye to you 22 years ago today our family loves and misses you so very much!❤️🥰❤️

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Debbie Williams 49w

Happy birthday

Happy birthday you would’ve been 83 today November 17, 2025. We miss and love you very much, 🎂🥰❤️🥰

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Debbie Williams 81w

Visit to mom

4/9/25 Stopped by to say hi to you today, Mom. Gracie came with me to meet you. Miss and love you so much.

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Debbie Williams 101w

Birthday

November 17 2024 happy heavenly birthday mom you are missed so much 🎂❤️

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