Douglas "Bud" Ray Coburn Jr.

November 29, 1960 – December 7, 2018

Lived 58 years

Ridgelawn Cemetery · Collinsville, Oklahoma

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Life story

Cindy was looking through Bud's files and came across this priceless document that he wrote a couple years before he passed. Anyone who knows Bud will not be surprised to know that he wrote his own obituary. He wrote it during a time when he was healthy, happy and vibrant. It was written back in the day when Cindy and Bud worked hard and played hard together. The only things changed in this document are the obvious "fill in the blanks" which are in parentheses. We hope you enjoy reading it. It is a gift to you from him.

Bud Coburn Obituary ~~ Written by Bud Coburn

"My name is Bud Coburn and I died of (cancer) at the age of (58). I decided to write my own obituary because they are usually written in a couple of different ways that I just don’t care for. Either family and friends gather together and list every minor accomplishment from cradle to grave in a timeline format, or they try and create one poetic last stanza about someone’s life that is so glowing one would think the deceased had been the living embodiment of a deity.

The truth, or my version of it, is this: I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, sometimes I failed, but I tried. For all my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separated me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn't always do the right thing or say the right thing. When you come to the end of your life, the things you really regret are the small simple things that hurt other people. Jesus Christ has been my Lord and Savior since 1984 and I'm thankful for God’s Love, Mercy, Grace and Forgiveness. I also look forward to the Return of Jesus Christ to raise me from the grave.

I want to say THANK YOU to those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. My Bride of (33) years has been my rock and my most precious thing on this earth and I have loved her with all my heart. My children and grandchildren are the colors of my own personal rainbow and have brought so much joy into my life. I love all of you. These are what made my life worthwhile.

If you think of me and would like to do something in honor of my memory, do this:

- Set a goal to read the Bible and pray daily and then do it. When you slip, get back to it.

- Volunteer at a school, church or library, food bank, etc.

- Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life.

- Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams.

- Forgive someone who doesn't deserve it.

- Stop at all lemonade stands run by kids and brag about their product.

- Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.

You will notice I did not mention all my job titles and earthly accomplishments. You realize at the end of life that you wished you worked less and spent more time loving others and giving God the glory in all things through his Son, Jesus Christ. I encourage you for the rest of your life to follow this advice.

I peacefully wait for Christ's return to raise me from the deadly grave. AMEN"

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